I stopped waiting for them to become friends
We have 3 cats, Pepper, Olive and Moose. Pepper and Moose had been having issues for months and I kept judging everything by whether they were suddenly getting along. That made every little setback feel like failure. The biggest thing this system changed was honestly my expectations. We started watching for smaller things. Pepper staying in the room. Moose seeing her and looking away. Both cats using the hallway without one following the other…. They are NOT cuddling and I don't care!!! The house is calmer and I don't have to supervise every doorway anymore. That's what I wanted